Should We Discipline or Love?

Most of the parents love their children, don’t they?

They love them on certain conditions. If you are like this, then… If you behave like that, then… Such love lacks the unconditional acceptance that will provide safety for the child.

Who has unconditional love?

My belief is that God has unconditional love. But even this is difficult to recognize and the parents’ love is still more difficult to recognize. The other day I read in a book by an American psychologist that most adults cannot show their love, not even if they feel it. The whole book is about explaining how we should show our love. It is a bit frightening to think that the author might be right.

How do you teach this through music?

In the experience of beautiful music, beautiful emotions come into being. It is good to catch some of these, and to keep them in our memories. Perhaps in those layers of the sub- or supraconscious we might consciously retrieve them. If we experience beauty profoundly, it is already ours in a way. It shapes and inspires us.